Showing posts with label activism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label activism. Show all posts
Sunday, May 17, 2009
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Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Married to A Cop? No Place To Turn For Help?
Susan Murphy Milano
The Susan Murphy Milano Show airs every Wednesday @ 4 PM ET/ 3 CT / 2 MT/ 1 PT
Go to http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano and listen to the show live.
Date / Time: 5/13/2009 4:00 PM
Category: Women
Call-in Number: (347) 326-9337
It is difficult for those involved in domestic violence in a relationship or married to a law enforcement officer to seek safety and services outside the blue wall. We will discuss the barriers for women in this situations face and provide solutions to a road for safety. We will examine the facts in the Kathleen Savio Murder, Linda Yancey, Lori DeKleine Murder and others on why police departments continue conducting business as usual when it comes to investigations within their rank and file.
Guests: Under the name Cloud Writer the Site Behind The Blue Wall has ensured the voices of police officer wives and girlfriends on crime's perpetrated from behind the blue wall are heard across the country. Police Officer Involved Domestic Violence. Lighting a candle of remembrance for those who've lost their lives to domestic violence behind the blue wall, for strength and wisdom to those still here, and a non-ending prayer for those who thought they had escaped but can't stop being afraid.
Renee Harrington worked in law enforcement and the criminal justice fields, where she authored domestic violence/crime victim programs. As a survivor of officer-involved domestic violence [OIDV], she has dedicated her time to working with victims of OIDV; advocating; educating others/the public about OIDV; authored Michigan OIDV legislation and advocated for laws to protect victims of OIDV. With the help of OIDV Network, She has created Michigan Officer Involved Domestic Violence the first website dedicated to victims and survivors of Officer Involved Domestic Violence in Michigan
Susan Murphy-Milano violence expert and author of "Defending Our Lives, getting away from domestic violence & staying safe and Moving Out, Moving On when a relationship goes wrong. And her new book out in July 2009,"Time's Up, how to leave and survive a dangerous relationship ,offers detailed practical information.
Please join us at Peace4 the Missing
Missing Persons Awareness and Support Network
http://peace4missing.ning.com
Monday, May 11, 2009
Alice Donovan, My mother who is sadly missed and deeply loved
written by: Angie Gilchrist, Alice's daughterOn November 14th 2002 my family got up that morning and did their normal routine in life..We all got ready for work and my mom Alice Donovan had the day off and was looking forward to her day of relaxation and rest before she had to start a new work week..
At noon mom decided to go to walmart to start her christmas shopping. She pulled in the Walmart parking lot at 2:39pm, parked in a parking spot but never made it into the store.She was ambushed by to young men with guns who forced her to drive away in her car with them..She spent three hours begging and pleading for her life. All her attempts to have her captives let her free failed..After raping her repeatedly and recieving a large chunk of money from her bank accounts they murdered her and left her body in a wooded area in Horry County South Carolina..
Both men were caught several days later and were put in to prision where they surely belonged. But they never told nor brought any law officials to the place where they discarded my mother..
Our family suffered the loss of my mother in different ways..It split our family apart into many different dynamics and the family fell apart. We sat through the trials of both of these men and heard the accounts of what they did to mom and the others over and over. We had to relive the nightmare over again and it seemed that no matter what we did to try to get on with our lives without her, we couldn't..She was still missing..Her body was out there somewhere. We could not except that. We were not at peace with that. For many years I often wondered if my mothers soul was at rest. Later I had to bring myself to believe that it did not matter where a person was placed in death, If they were going to spend their eternity with the higher power then their souls are at peace.
January 17th 2009 almost seven years later one of my mothers murderers decided to come forward and explain where they left my mother all these years with a map and pictures..A search was conducted and skeletal remains were found in that area he said she was..The memory gate lifted and my soul was flooded with all memories of my mother, good and bad and of the events that lead to her death..I relized on that day in January of 2009 standing on that dirt road as CSI came out of the field with brown bags which hopefully hold my mother, that I had been running and hiding from the truth..Not wanting to face the memories of my mother. The pain of losing her was so great and so painful that I thought it would be easier to forget her..And all I did was prolong the innevitable.
Now as I sit and wait for DNA to confirm that it is my mother's remains, my mind is flooded with thoughts of my mother. A woman with integrity, a woman with passion for life, a woman who saw the beauty in all things, a woman who loved like no other, a woman who I am honored to say is my mother.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE DOES NOT TAKE A HOLIDAY!
Susan Murphy Milano's Journal: Domestic Violence Does Not Take A Holiday!
Today is Domestic Violence Awareness Day. To me that sounds rather odd. Highlighting a specific day of awareness for crime's affecting millions of women and children across the country? When in fact, domestic violence, stalking and murder never takes a holiday. It happens 365 days a year. I would like to see days, weeks and months involving a national awareness action program.
READ THE ENTIRE ARTICLE FULL OF VITAL LIFE SAVING TIPS BY CLICKING HERE!
Author, Speaker, Consultant
Expert Source of Abuse Exit Plans
imaginepublicity@gmail.comLook for Susan’s upcoming book, “Time’s Up; A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships” to be released Summer of 2009.
Check the time, it’s UP, do not hesitate to claim your ticket towards a lifetime of freedom from of abuse and visit Susan’s site
for lifesaving advice, inspiration and clear directions
The Susan Murphy Milano Show
Contact: ImaginePublicity
Friday, May 8, 2009
An Emotional Abuser Sees Himself As A Blameless Victim
If you feel like you are in an abusive situation and need a safe plan to leave, DOWNLOAD "Moving Out, Moving On" written and created by Susan Murphy Milano
Look for Susan’s upcoming book, “Time’s Up; A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships” to be released Summer of 2009.
Check the time, it’s UP, do not hesitate to claim your ticket towards a lifetime of freedom from of abuse and visit Susan’s site for lifesaving advice, inspiration and clear directions , including her vital and impacting, currently available resource, “Moving out, Moving on.”
The Susan Murphy Milano Show airs each Wednesday afternoon at 4pm EST, a must hear source for all those affected by the painful cruelty of a life abused.
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Drew Peterson's Children with oldest son, Stephen
Drew Peterson's oldest son, Stephen Peterson, showed up at Drew's house about 11 a.m. Friday with three children, a teenage boy and a younger girl and boy. All four entered the house and Stephen, an Oak Brook police officer, declined comment.
Drew Peterson lives with his four children----two teenage boys from his marriage to Savio and a younger boy and a girl with Stacy. When Drew was arrested Thursday, the children were taken to the Bolingbrook Police Department, then transferred to the custody of the state Department of Children and Family Services.
At Drew's request, authorities contacted Stephen, who lives near North Aurora, so that he could take custody of the children.
When reached earlier Friday at his North Aurora home, Stephen declined comment.
Read full article here
Drew Peterson lives with his four children----two teenage boys from his marriage to Savio and a younger boy and a girl with Stacy. When Drew was arrested Thursday, the children were taken to the Bolingbrook Police Department, then transferred to the custody of the state Department of Children and Family Services.
At Drew's request, authorities contacted Stephen, who lives near North Aurora, so that he could take custody of the children.
When reached earlier Friday at his North Aurora home, Stephen declined comment.
Read full article here
Women in Crime Ink: No More Sweet Dreams
Women in Crime Ink: No More Sweet Dreams
Susan Murphy Milano
Author, Speaker, Consultant
Expert Source of Abuse Exit Plans
--imaginepublicity@gmail.com
Author, Speaker, Consultant
Expert Source of Abuse Exit Plans
Look for Susan’s upcoming book, “Time’s Up; A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships” to be released Summer of 2009.
Check the time, it’s UP, do not hesitate to claim your ticket towards a lifetime of freedom from of abuse and visit Susan’s site for lifesaving advice, inspiration and clear directions , including her vital and impacting, currently available resource, “Moving out, Moving on.”
The Susan Murphy Milano Show airs each Wednesday afternoon at 4pm EST, a must hear source for all those affected by the painful cruelty of a life abused.
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Contact:
Sara Huizenga
Sara Huizenga
Peki Jones
ImaginePublicity
ImaginePublicity
To Women Trapped Everywhere a Vital Message from Diane Dimond and Susan Murphy Milano
May. 8 2009
To Trapped Women Everywhere
Domestic Abuse Hurts Everyone
In the wake of former cop Drew Peterson being arrested on charges he murdered his third wife (his fourth wife is still missing and presumed dead) there are loads of words being written on the topic of domestic abuse.
Over at Women In Crime Ink, one of my fellow contributors wrote something I feel I MUST pass along. Because, you see, domestic violence can hit any class of family, in any big city or small village. It doesn’t matter how much money you have or don’t have or whether the children are damaged in the awful process. Domestic abuse happens behind closed doors all the time. And only when the woman finds the strength to walk away does it stop.
Below find the words of Susan Murphy Milano , a remarkable woman who has spent 20 years as a prosecutor of domestic violence crimes, with an expertise in police officer perpetrated violence. To say she knows of what she speaks is an understatement. Her personal story is a riveting lesson for us all.
As a child Susan grew up in an abusive household with a domineeing father who controlled the family with an iron fist. Just like Drew Peterson her dad was a POLICE OFFICER - a detective with the Chicago Violent Crimes Unit, no less - and he instilled in the family a sense of hopelessness. Who were they going to report his bad deeds to? His fellow cops?
Susan Murphy Milano
Susan’s words which follow are more poignant when you realize the ultimate end for her parents. Her mother was murdered by her father. He then killed himself. An all too familiar end to the horrible cycle.
Please pass this on if you suspect a woman you know needs an exit plan….I know I sure did once.
If you have been in an abusive relationship or currently are with someone who takes you on a roller ride twenty-four hours a day, you understand what it is like to be treated as if you do not matter, to wait on their every request (more like demands) only to end up right where they want you, under their control. And for some reason, because you love this person, cannot leave financially or have little left of your self worth, you put up with the verbal, emotional and physical assaults.
So you stay right where you most want to escape from…long beyond the time you should have said, you meant to say…NO MORE!
Listen To This Lesson
I’m not going to ask you why, to make you feel that it is somehow your fault that you were abused, that you should have and could have and because you didn’t you’re now somewhat to blame. I don’t judge anyone. That would be like throwing stones in my already broken window filled glass house. Your reasons for staying are part of the abuse process, the systematic tearing down of your sense of reality and belief in yourself.
You also may have become used to being treated like dirt and have maybe even taught yourself to “overlook” getting choked, smashed against doors, shoved into household furniture, used to having lamps thrown at you. Perhaps you’re now numb to the belittling, the mockery, the intimately projected verbal abuse and are now left with an invisible feeling of abandonment as your one and only reliable and constant invisible companion.
Many of us being or who have been abused continue to hope for change. We keep wishing for that “Jeannie” to pop out of a bottle and grant us those magical 3 wishes our lives have been so desperate for, for so long.
But let me be straight with you when I say, that is never going to happen. It is a fantasy, a myth, a make believe dream. Your relationship is not a fairy tale, some kind of little girl wished upon, happily ever after story. Not only is it really your reality, it is also dangerous, toxic and lethal.
You literally cannot LIVE for the few and fleeting good times in your relationship. The sparse and far between loving tender moments given to by this controlling, manipulative and dangerous person with whom you say you “LOVE”. It’s impossible to erase the constant pain and hurt that have been written all over your soul in permanent red ink.
"A man who beats you doesn't love you" - Susan Murphy Milano
In simple, plain and easy to understand words, a man who beats anyone doesn’t love you. It is impossible. They are incapable of loving anything on this planet and quite likely your very love for them causes your abuser to rather most intensely despise you.
Of course, behind your “safe home” no one sees your personal punching bag role as the target of their physical, emotional and/or verbal abuse. How you desperately cling to your hope while painfully hiding your body and hearts deep wounds and too many to count bruises. Your own induced humiliation as you beg your abuser to please treat you with even a minute amount of kindness and respect.
You play and feed into their own personal failures as a human being. Men don’t behave like this but, cowards do.
You force your mind to avoid the scene of the crime and your memory to naively consist of that time and space when this person was wonderful and loving towards you. So now, after years of abuse, you walk around like a numb zombie desperately hoping and waiting for the few measly crumbs of hope that go away as quickly as they come.
But today, it’s time to say ENOUGH. Today, Time’s Up.
It is time to remove the dangerous toxic nutcase from your life.
It is time for you and your children to leave the danger that is in your lives.
It is time for you to realize that there may not be a next time.
It is time to wake up, to look at reality and understand that the reason why you don’t feel safe, is because you’re not.
Susan Murphy Milano
Author, Speaker, Consultant
Expert Source of Abuse Exit Plans
imaginepublicity@gmail.comLook for Susan’s upcoming book, “Time’s Up; A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships” to be released Summer of 2009.
Check the time, it’s UP, do not hesitate to claim your ticket towards a lifetime of freedom from of abuse and visit Susan’s site
The Susan Murphy Milano Show
--Contact:
Sara HuizengaPeki Jones
ImaginePublicity
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